Written by: Barette Best | Posted:
I have donated for four families! I know that 3 out of the 4 families have conceived! My profile says that my first donation has frozen for a later transfer, I hope that they have conceived as well or will in the future.
I learned about Egg Donor Solutions via an ad on the radio. I looked into it because it sounded so interesting. I was in college, working full time, and a newly wed. We just paid for our wedding and we were struggling financially.
It was a chunk of change that would help my husband and my financial situation greatly. I had signed up to be a bone marrow donor and never got matched, I had a “why not?” kind of attitude thinking I would never get selected.
To be even more transparent, I was in it for the money in the beginning.
Once a family picks you and the contracts started, is when my husband and I had some tough conversations and I actually started to feel the weight of my decision to be an egg donor.
There are hard questions asked and you can only answer them honestly and what you think is right for you, the family, and the future child/children. Some uncomfortable things have to be done and it takes dedication and responsibility to complete a cycle.
I thought I had a good understanding of what I was doing as an egg donor… and it was actually a good thing, a great thing even. I had many conversations with people talking about how awesome it was for us helping a family extend their family. But only until I became a parent did I understand the magnitude and beauty of being a parent.
I am a mother of an almost 2 year old. I never would have understood the greatness of what I was participating in until recently suffering from a miscarriage. I got a glimpse of what my families possibly went through, maybe many times, and experience that gut wrenching feeling personally.
There’s so much anonymity throughout it all, only years later do I feel somewhat knowledgeable about egg donation, the process and how everything works! But everything I’ve learned has only fortified the pride and joy I feel for having donated.
Three of my donations were local donations and my last donation I traveled to Arizona! My favorite experience was when I traveled. I don’t leave Texas often, but my trip to Arizona was phenomenal.
I got to have an experience whilst going to doctors appointments and injecting myself with hormones to prepare for retrieval. The intended parents of that donation were what opened my eyes the most. I have never met them but upon arrival I was given a heartfelt gift and letter, after retrieval they sent me flowers.
Just their love and support for me, a stranger, was eye opening on just how amazing this whole process is! I still get teary eyed thinking about it and I’m still thankful for them going above and beyond their “contract” to make me feel appreciated.
My local donations were all happening in the midst of my personal, busy life- I spent a great deal crying happy tears (blame the hormones) during that time in Arizona because I was allotted a moment to dedicate myself to a family who needed me. I didn’t get that opportunity with previous donations and their letters helped me realize just how grateful I was for the experience and opportunity to help all my families. I was being thanked profusely and I actually got to take a moment and be thankful with them.
I helped 3, hopefully 4, families achieve a dream.
The BEST dream.
I am thankful to the families who selected me and allowed me to be a part of their journeys to conceive. And of course the money was helpful… it’s sort of icing on the cake.
I would love for my families to know that their investment in me helped me get through college, pay off debt from our wedding, and supported a few endeavors like a piano and braces! They helped me achieve goals!
I pray for nothing but success, happiness, and love for all going through this process or even thinking about it.
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