Intended Parent Blog

Welcome to Egg Donor Solutions Intended Parent Blog. This is a place for you to gain knowledge about Egg Donation and also talk with other intended parents who can directly relate to your experiences. Feel free to ask any questions and post comments. We want this to be a positive resource for you. We also welcome your feedback and how we can tailor the blog to meet your needs.

A New Beginning

Written by Kathy Fountain LMHC, Board Certified Counselor

Here it is 2020 – not only the turning over of a new year, but a new decade!

At the recent December meeting of our Resolve support group, the women were lamenting the end of “another year of trying.” The faces of frustration were everywhere. Not being able to conceive can cause feelings of helplessness, anger and despair, and these feelings can deepen as time ticks by.

A new year, though, brings new opportunities and renewed chances for achieving the dream of parenthood. Something about the new year gives us a fresh look at old problems. For many of your clients, it’s the realization that there are more options for becoming a parent than they had considered, such as choosing a donor or surrogate.

Research has consistently found that the No. 1 reason patients drop out of treatment is not because their doctor was discouraging them, but because of emotional distress. It’s not surprising, then, to learn that women with infertility have the same levels of anxiety and depression as do women with cancer, heart disease and HIV. That’s a lot of stress!

As professionals, it’s important for us to be aware of the struggles of our clients, and to realize that they may be experiencing significant stress and they are either unaware of it, or perhaps are reluctant to mention it to us. We can be vigilant to their emotional needs and help them by suggesting that they focus more on self-care during this journey. Here are some suggestions you may pass along to help them stay sane and relaxed through this process:

*Social support: Studies have shown it is critical to our physical health. Urge them to find a support group like Resolve; confide in a close relative; find an on-line support group; socialize with close friends who “get it.”

*Mental health support: Usually a mental health professional is participating in your client’s journey.  Encourage them to seek help from a fertility-focused professional who is trained to teach them tools for reducing anxiety and depression.

*The mind and body are connected. Suggest they find a meditation or yoga class. Subscribe to a meditation app or find a guided imagery download. When the body is relaxed, the mind will follow.

*Write it down! Suggest they start a journal where they can write down their thoughts and feelings; hopes and insecurities; dreams for the future. Downloading those feelings on paper is a great way to let go of their burden.

*Remind them that this is a finite, limited time in their lives and it won’t last forever. Encourage them to hold onto their dreams of becoming a parent, and stay hopeful that one day, somehow – with your help! – they will hold a baby in their arms.

Kathy Fountain is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in the state of Florida (FL#7630) and National Board Certified Counselor specializing in fertility and infertility issues. Her practice includes counseling individuals and couples who are experiencing the stresses that accompany fertility issues.

Kathy understands that infertility is one of the most difficult things you will ever experience. It can affect your self-esteem and create a strain on your relationships with family, friends and even your partner. Even if you’ve never considered counseling before, Kathy can provide much needed support at this stressful time in your life. Ms. Fountain welcomes LGBT individuals and couples.

Happy Together

After going through her own infertility journey and becoming a mother through the gift of egg donation, author Julie Marie found various paths to parenthood were underrepresented in children’s literature. She wrote Happy Together, a collection of children’s books to help introduce young children to the family building concepts of egg donation, embryo donation, sperm donation and IVF.

Happy Together, an egg donation story, is a heartwarming book to help introduce the concept of egg donation to a young child. A story told through clear language and cheerful illustrations, readers will join Mommy and Daddy bear on the journey to fulfill their greatest wish of becoming parents. With help from a doctor, an egg from a special lady called a donor and Daddy’s seed, a baby grew in Mommy’s tummy and was welcomed with great joy!

Happy Together is available at Amazon.com
Learn more at www.happytogetherchildrensbook.com

Our Christmas Wish

The holidays have not always been our favorite time of the year, especially while trying to conceive.

Being obligated to spend time with family & friends who you know are going to be asking questions… The same questions you keep asking yourself… When will I become pregnant?!

When are you guys having children? You have been married for 3 years now, when’s that baby coming? Honey, have you gained weight… gasp… are you pregnant?

Little did our loving friends and family know that we were struggling with fertility and we have been for quite some time now! They also didn’t know that this year we have been working with an amazing agency called Egg Donor Solutions.

The team at EDS was hands down the best, despite all of the struggles they were so compassionate, educational and resourceful. Our donor who was from Florida had an opportunity to fly to Colorado for her retrieval. We did not get to meet her, but heard that she was thrilled to be a part in helping to create a family & to see snow for the first time! We had our transfer… and guess what!?

Our Christmas wish came true!

We are pregnant & we are going to be parents. We are so thrilled and this could not have been possible without our donor & Egg Donor Solutions. Merry Christmas to all~ J & J

If you have considered helping to create a family as an Egg Donor, apply today! There are so many couples that could use your help! January is our busiest time, so even if you are not currently ready you can go to our website, create a profile & when you are ready we can get it activated & find you a perfect match of intended parents.

It is also a great time to update your profile, add fresh photos and a video. We can’t wait to see your fresh updated pictures & we wish you all a very magical holiday & look forward to creating families with you in 2020.