Intended Parent Blog

Welcome to Egg Donor Solutions Intended Parent Blog. This is a place for you to gain knowledge about Egg Donation and also talk with other intended parents who can directly relate to your experiences. Feel free to ask any questions and post comments. We want this to be a positive resource for you. We also welcome your feedback and how we can tailor the blog to meet your needs.

How To Improve Your Memory

Your memory plays a crucial role in your life. It is because of your memory that you can remember simple things such as your name and home address or more complicated things such as memorizing by heart the multiplication table, solving the average velocity of a car, or learning new words in a new language. But sadly, as one ages, so does one’s memory. Memory lapses can happen at any age, to anyone. Thanks to science and intensive research, there are now ways to protect and sharpen your mind. Here are the major strategies you can try out.

1.     Get some sleep, power naps included.

Don’t underestimate the effects of sleep. According to research, sleeping enhances your memory and helps you “practice” and improve your performance of challenging skills. Taking a nap (especially after learning something new) helps in retaining those memories, recharges your brain, and keeps it sharp.

2.         Feed your brain.

What you eat (and don’t eat) has a big impact on your memory. Maximize your brain’s ability by eating the right stuff. Excellent foods for the brain are blueberries, nuts, green leafy vegetables, broccoli, turmeric, avocado, salmon, nuts, eggs, green tea, and dark chocolate. These foods are rich in omega-3 fatty acids,anthocyanin, and antioxidants.

3.     Move your body.

Keeping your body active is good not just for your waist and heart but also for your brain as well. Regular exercise increases your heart rate and maintains the flow of blood, carrying the right amount of oxygen and nutrients that your brain needs. When the nutrients don’t make it there, the brain’s ability to function is compromised. So, the next time you feel like your memory is failing you, take a few minutes to exercise and move. You’ll be surprised how a short walk around the block, or a quick jog, clears your mind and improves memory.

4.     Meditate

You can benefit a lot if you know how to meditate correctly. Meditation improves your ability to concentrate and focus and it decreases your stress level and improves your memory.

5.    Keep your brain active. Recent studies show that keeping your brain active helps delay memory loss. There are many ways to keep your brain busy. Simple tasks like reading, doing crossword puzzles, playing cards, learning a new language, or mastering a new skill are ways to keep your brain active.  By doing new activities beyond your comfort zone, you are keeping your memory sharp.

Egg Donation Timeline

Welcome! You are either thinking about egg donation or you are embarking on your journey! We know that it can be overwhelming with all of the calendars, appointments and steps so we wanted to help guide you with this timeline. Of course,  you have your personal care coordinator and our team that will also be with you & your donor through this journey, but you can never have too much information. We are so thankful to have you and we look forward to your journey to parenthood.

A New Beginning

Written by Kathy Fountain LMHC, Board Certified Counselor

Here it is 2020 – not only the turning over of a new year, but a new decade!

At the recent December meeting of our Resolve support group, the women were lamenting the end of “another year of trying.” The faces of frustration were everywhere. Not being able to conceive can cause feelings of helplessness, anger and despair, and these feelings can deepen as time ticks by.

A new year, though, brings new opportunities and renewed chances for achieving the dream of parenthood. Something about the new year gives us a fresh look at old problems. For many of your clients, it’s the realization that there are more options for becoming a parent than they had considered, such as choosing a donor or surrogate.

Research has consistently found that the No. 1 reason patients drop out of treatment is not because their doctor was discouraging them, but because of emotional distress. It’s not surprising, then, to learn that women with infertility have the same levels of anxiety and depression as do women with cancer, heart disease and HIV. That’s a lot of stress!

As professionals, it’s important for us to be aware of the struggles of our clients, and to realize that they may be experiencing significant stress and they are either unaware of it, or perhaps are reluctant to mention it to us. We can be vigilant to their emotional needs and help them by suggesting that they focus more on self-care during this journey. Here are some suggestions you may pass along to help them stay sane and relaxed through this process:

*Social support: Studies have shown it is critical to our physical health. Urge them to find a support group like Resolve; confide in a close relative; find an on-line support group; socialize with close friends who “get it.”

*Mental health support: Usually a mental health professional is participating in your client’s journey.  Encourage them to seek help from a fertility-focused professional who is trained to teach them tools for reducing anxiety and depression.

*The mind and body are connected. Suggest they find a meditation or yoga class. Subscribe to a meditation app or find a guided imagery download. When the body is relaxed, the mind will follow.

*Write it down! Suggest they start a journal where they can write down their thoughts and feelings; hopes and insecurities; dreams for the future. Downloading those feelings on paper is a great way to let go of their burden.

*Remind them that this is a finite, limited time in their lives and it won’t last forever. Encourage them to hold onto their dreams of becoming a parent, and stay hopeful that one day, somehow – with your help! – they will hold a baby in their arms.

Kathy Fountain is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in the state of Florida (FL#7630) and National Board Certified Counselor specializing in fertility and infertility issues. Her practice includes counseling individuals and couples who are experiencing the stresses that accompany fertility issues.

Kathy understands that infertility is one of the most difficult things you will ever experience. It can affect your self-esteem and create a strain on your relationships with family, friends and even your partner. Even if you’ve never considered counseling before, Kathy can provide much needed support at this stressful time in your life. Ms. Fountain welcomes LGBT individuals and couples.